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Paralyzed by Fear | Personal Note Becky Williamson Photography

March 9, 2015

Can you remember the first time you experienced fear? I can’t remember the very first time but I do know that as a 7 year old little girl staring up at a roller coaster used to send fear spiraling through my body….it still does! It took me a long time to conquer that fear, several years of standing in lines just to dart out at the last minute before stepping on until one day I DID IT! I faced that fear, stood in that line, and was all IN! I’m pretty sure I didn’t open my eyes the entire ride and probably screamed so loud the poor people around me still have hearing damage. But here’s the thing, when that ride ended, I experienced the biggest rush of excitement.  I was laughing uncontrollably and immediately said ‘Let’s do that again’!!

Fear is something that follows us everywhere, in every decision. The moment I start to dream, be inspired, feel so called to do something and then in an instant fear takes over.  The what ifs start to roll in…

What if I fail…

What if someone sees me fail…

What if I’m wrong…

What if I wasn’t hearing clearly from God…

What if I’m not enough…

What if I’ll never be enough…

And we can carry on with these thoughts until that light that was once shining so bright is quickly dimmed and put out and there it is…FEAR

We are stuck, wanting so deeply to charge ahead but so afraid of the unknown that we are content to stay right where we are.

If I’m being honest, I’ve lived in that safety zone for the majority of my life.  I made all the ‘safe’ decisions….

decisions I knew I was capable of and unlikely to fail, in fear of what would happen if I dared to be brave, dream big and others saw me fall short.

But then I realized there was something worst than failing…

You see, if you read any stories of those who have achieved great success, somewhere along their journey they failed.  It happens, no story is perfect. But their success far outweighed their failure…it didn’t define them.  

In reading Lysa Terkeurst, ‘The Best Yes’, this spoke straight to my core….

‘As long as you desire to please God with your decision, no decision you make will be completely awful. Nor will any decision you make be completely awesome.  Every decision is a package deal of both. Every thrill has an element of risk. Every leap of faith has moments of uncertainty. And every great success story has elements of failure. In other words, since there is no perfect choice, I don’t have to be paralyzed by the fear that I’m not making the exact right decision. Again, I want to please God with this decision. But I also want to demonstrate my trust in Him by actually making a decision – having made peace with the fact it won’t all be perfect.’

I can tell you as a self-proclaimed perfectionist, it is hard to lay that down!

Lysa goes on to say,

‘If I’m trusting myself, I will stare at all the possible way I could fail. If I’m trusting God, I will stare at all the possible way He’ll use this whether I fail or succeed. When I stare at failure, I’ll fear it. I’ll convince myself it’s the worst thing that could happen. And I’ll stay stuck. But when I stare at all the possible ways God can use this whether I succeed or fail, I’ll face my decision. I’ll convince myself that it’s better to step out and find out than to stay stuck.’

Truth is, I don’t want to be stuck anymore.  I’m no longer afraid of failing.  I know it will happen. I know my decision won’t be perfect, there will be uncertainty, but there will also be glorious moments. Moments that make it all worth it.

I’m already seeing this unfold and the more I do, the easier it makes it to continue to take those steps into the unknown.

You see this post right here…WRITING…that’s a huge fear of mine. I’ve never felt like I writer but I also know I’ve been given a platform and I want to use it for the good of others. So here I am with all my flaws, my incomplete sentences, run-ons, grammar that would drive my dad crazy just reading this…

So dream and dream big!!! What is it that fear has been holding you back from accomplishing?  Share it with me, I want to cheer you on!





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  1. China

    March 9th, 2015 at 11:22 am

    You are not alone. Fear gets the best of us all. Love this post for all the positivity and encouragement it brings to take the next step.

  2. Lindsey Harwath

    March 9th, 2015 at 11:55 am

    I’m right there with you! Our “perfectionist” personalities make fear of failure such a forethought in all decisions! It’s hard to let go! Thank you for sharing and lifting up others along the same journey :)

  3. Jamie

    March 17th, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    This post speaks to me as well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  4. Jessie

    March 29th, 2015 at 7:06 am

    You shouldn’t fear writing, you’re really good at it!

  5. Kendra

    April 13th, 2015 at 9:33 pm

    Thank you for posting this!! Good gravy does it hit home!!

  6. Sara Candle

    April 22nd, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    Amen! so good to read this and know others feel the same way. While you may know and think it, its nice to relate. Keep up the good work, taking risks and trusting in God.

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